Managing Your Energy or Personal Power

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iStock_000002617232XSmallDo you find your happiness is dependent on the external circumstances of your life?

I have noticed a theme lately in working with clients and chatting with friends.  The discussions have reflected on how other people’s energy, actions and words affect our current state of happiness.  This is not new or unusual; however, we keep running into it at different levels.

We know our true happiness comes from inside, that we are responsible for how we respond to others and for our own perceptions, though putting it into practice is one of life’s greatest challenges!  So how do we tackle this challenge?

As a rather sensitive person, it is a skill set that I have been developing my whole life.  I recall numerous time as a child in public school, arriving home at the end of the day in tears, telling my mom I hated my red hair and freckles because I was teased so much.  The teasing to me felt like rejection and if I could only be a blonde or brunette, then all my troubles would be over.  If you are a blonde or brunette reading this, then you will have your own personal stories of teasing that have nothing to do with your hair colour.  Kids are amazing at coming up with an infinite number of ways to point out differences.  With the help of my mom and others, I began the journey of what we sometimes call “having broad shoulders”.

Don Miguel Ruiz put it beautifully in his book, The Four Agreements by labeling the second agreement “What anyone says about you is none of your business!”  We can never stop others from talking about us AND we can never make everyone in the world like us. (believe me, I tried for many years…) So, what matters is what WE say about us!  Literally, that voice in our head that is chatting away every conscious moment, has more impact than we give it credit for.  It is part of what I will call our Personal Power.  When we develop skills and habits to support our personal power, we have a greater likelihood of being able to “Manage our Energy!”

Managing Your Energy Gives You the Strong Foundation You Need to Handle Whatever Life Throws At You.

Energy comes in many forms which is great because it gives us many opportunities to support it.  We keep our energy or personal power balanced through:

  • Proper rest
  • Good nutrition
  • Regular exercise
  • Engaging in activities that bring us joy
  • Taking time to dream
  • Activities that provide positive reinforcement
  • Self-reflection activities to check in with our current energy level

This is one of the reasons I was drawn to reiki.  It became one of my avenues for gauging my energy level or personal power and then effectively bringing it up to a higher functioning level. I have practiced reiki for 17 years now and have assisted many clients to tap into their personal power. For those who are drawn to learn how to bring this gift out for yourselves, I encourage you to explore reiki as one of the tools you can use.  I have a schedule of reiki training classes listed here on the website if you are in this area or you can search out a local reiki master teacher where you live.

As we head into this New Year, how can you learn to manage your energy and personal power more effectively? I would love your feedback. And here on my blog, you’ll get commentluv. What a wonderful opportunity for you to leave a link back to your own blog when you comment!

Until next time,




8 replies
  1. Lynn Mitanoff says:

    How can I learn to manage my energy and personal power more effectively? Thank you for asking the question, wise woman! Where I seem to have the most difficulty is in my own home with my immediate family. I sometimes wonder if I picked these people or are they my Karma, like I need to learn lessons from them. The hardest thing I find is when the conversation is what I perceive as negative, or dis-empowering, or complaining, or gossip. How do I manage my personal energy at these times? I don’t even want to be in the vicinity of these words being spoken. In some cases, I have had to actually physically take myself away from the conversation. I feel my Energy being sapped, start to feel tired, and down right lousy. How can I manage my energy and personal power more effectively in these cases, say when I cannot gracefully remove myself, or it is not appropriate or rude to leave the situation, my relationship guru?

    • Karen says:

      Hi Lynn – you are very courageous to share this very real example that I am sure many people experience in their lives. We are most vulnerable to the closest people in out lives – they know us intimately and that means the good and the bad. When little nudges do not get handled and cleared properly, they grow into pinches and pinches in turn grow into punches! Not literally in most cases but energetically it feels the same. I am going to suggest that you need to put more attention to the little things so that the pressure does not build up – punches are difficult to diffuse in the moment by the best of us. Spend some time thinking about the little things that you are tolerating in others and in yourself. When we do not keep agreements with ourselves, our energy and personal power is knocked down a notch. It ususally comes back to taking care of ourselves on a regular basis and if we are doing that, then we are also compassionately dealing with those that are close to us. Remember – sometimes walking away is the best thing to do in the moment, then deal with it later after your emotions have balanced. I hope this helps – you know where to find me if you have more questions. with love and gratitude – Karen

      • Lynn Mitanoff says:

        Thanks Karen for your wise words. I so appreciate you! Today Abraham’s daily quote gave me an answer too. I find this a very powerful message, so I thought that I would share it. The second sentence really resonated re my question. Thank you Karen and Abraham!
        “Even though you would like your government to orchestrate the laws or God to orchestrate the law or somebody to give everybody one set of rules, it’s not ever going to happen. Each one of you, individually, are seeking your own vibrational balance, and when you find it, then you will welcome all kinds of different beliefs, because you will never fear that the belief will take you someplace that you don’t want to be.”

        — Abraham

        Excerpted from the workshop in Atlanta, GA on Saturday, September 13th, 1997 # 336

  2. Celeste says:

    I love reading your blogs Karen. Everything you write resonates deeply, and managing our energy feels like a very important message right now. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and always doing it from a place of compassion, acceptance and love. Your intentions come through so clearly. I feel blessed to live in the same community as you and to get to experience your Reiki treatments and beautiful spirit first hand.

    A heart full of gratitude to you.

    • Karen says:

      Thank you Celeste – it gives me deep gratitude to know that when I feel the nudge to share personal insights that they really do resonate with others. This is such a special time to really explore our peaceful power and to have the courage to be all that we can be…our communities are ready, the planet is ready and it looks like many of us are ready! It gives us strength to know we have each other. So you go girlfriend…I’ll be your cheerleader! Namaste (heart)

  3. Joanne says:

    Thank you Karen for this blog post. I took the opportunity to read it again yesterday after facing a challenge this week. We are all vulnerable and this post helped to center me again. Thank you for all that you offer in the way of your experience, insights and inspiration and for all that you are- a very special person in my life.

    • Karen says:

      Hey Joanne – it is so very rewarding to know that this post gave you insights to move from discomfort! My writing always acts as a reminder to me too…we can always use reminders! I go to you with my social media questions, it is good to know that you can come to me with interpersonal questions! in gratitude always!


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