Nine Way’s of Relating in Life – Let’s Start with Type One

The Enneagram – Are You a Type 1?

Do you like to be organized and orderly? Do you like to be on time? Do you tend to see things in terms of right or wrong, good or bad? Is it difficult to be spontaneous? You don’t like it when people break the rules! Do you think of yourself as practical, reasonable and realistic? If these statements resonate with you, then you may wish to look further at Type One on the Enneagram.

I will cover a basic overview of each of the nine types as we go through the next weeks.  What is most important to understand, is that we have some of all types within us so it is helpful to understand how each one looks at and responds to the world around them.  Besides, we are sure to have someone of every type in our own circle of influence and understanding someone who sees things differently than we do, creates opportunity for less stressful interactions.

Type One can be called the Reformer, The Perfectionist or The Judge. Ones are motivated from a deep inner message to be good, to have integrity and to be balanced. They are idealists and want to make the world a better place. There is an active inner critic that operates full time within the One’s mind steering their thoughts, feelings and actions to do the right thing. Ones are conscientious and ethical, with a strong sense of right and wrong. They are teachers, crusaders, and advocates for change: always striving to improve things, but afraid of making a mistake. Well-organized, orderly, and fastidious, they try to maintain high standards, but can slip into being critical and perfectionistic. They typically have problems with resentment and impatience.

My husband is a Type One and his favourite saying has always been, “ Good, Better, Best Never Let it Rest until Your Good is Better and Your Better Best”.  He takes life seriously and work always comes before play. This does not mean that Ones will never play, it just means they believe they must earn their play time, or even better, when they finally get away on that well deserved holiday.  Once away from all their responsibilities, a whole new expression of playfulness can emerge!

Type 1 at their best in relationships, are loyal, dedicated, conscientious and helpful.  They are well balanced and have a good sense of humour. Ones at their worst in a relationship, are critical, argumentative, nit-picking and uncompromising. They have high expectations of others.

Practical suggestions for Type Ones:

  • Spend some time each day doing some recreational activities that you enjoy whether it be gardening, playing a sport, walking, being with friends or puttering in your workshop.
  • Spoil yourself –flowers, chocolates, meals out – and regularly indulge in the things that you enjoy.
  • Accentuate the importance of humour in your life.
  • Avoid the shoulda, woulda, coulda’s
  • Allow yourself to have one cluttered drawer, closet or room.
  • Allow yourself to lose your temper.
  • Welcome impulses and desires and see them as valid.

Famous One’s – Al Gore, Hilary Clinton, Harrison Ford, Margaret Thatcher, George Harrison, Katherine Hepburn, Jane Fonda, Martha Stewart, Vanessa Redgrave, Nelson Mandela, Pope John Paul II, Ghandi.

How about you? Do you relate to a type 1? I’d love to get your feedback.  Here on my blog, you’ll get commentluv. That’s a plug in that allows you to leave a link back to your own site when you leave a comment!

Until next time,

Karen

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    • Karen says:

      I wouldn’t want you any other way precious One!! You know we need all types to make the whole and our work is to embrace our true being and become whole within us. I love the work you are doing Linda – let me know how you are embracing your seven connection in 2011!

      Karen

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  1. Katie says:

    i have been brought up to *respect my elders *treat people the way i would like to be treated *watch out for my younger sister *respect authority – this list goes on and on – these are all basic things that i have been taught by my parents and they are what i live by. However as many years of my life has surpassed, i do feel that treating people the way i want to be treated hasn’t worked out very well for me and therefore has led to a lot of anger and resentment.
    I do like to make lists when i go shopping but otherwise i don’t so much. My other half has said when i send him shopping i direct him where all the isles are where exactly the food is in on the list in the shop.
    I have a touch of OCD when people move my things – when my other half moves my fridge magnets around it really annoys the hell out of me and i have to put it back. OR he would tell me he’s moved something somewhere for a change and I’ll move it back. My mum used to tell me as a kid if she moved something in her living room I’d go and change it back.
    I do not like change – if change has to happen it has to slowly because it disrupts things in my head and if too many things are changing all at once its absolute chaos in my brain. I try not to even go there because to think of the disruption it causes… it sends me funny and that’s putting it midly – my family tell me I’m argumentative and irrational. I shall make a comparison – which i tell my other half frequently i feel like I’m almost the female version of Sheldon in the Big Bang Theory but without the sciantific mind.
    On a personal note i have learnt many life lessons the hard way – i have suffered my own emotional pain in life. I’m obviously not going indulge into anything of my personal life on the internet but i have a lot of core anger which is what I’m understanding, as i read this enneagram type. Most of this has been swept under the carpet so to speak, sometimes the dust comes out but it gets swept up that rug again and its still there, but generally with that more dust than there was before. At times when i have tried to show I’m upset or angry to my main family i feel that its me in the wrong for reacting so ‘aggressively’ as they put it. I feel like I’m blamed for showing my emotions, and whats at the root of it, because they will not listen, by this i mean – not listening with the ears, but because it goes against what they feel… its like they are unyeidling and refuse to see how something has affected me, and that just builds up more anger and resentment – and it makes me feel guilty, because, to me, how they react, has made me feel that I’m at fault.

    I do like to get things perfect but i do know I’m not on the other hand perfect… and i do know i like to have things my own way – a certain way and i don’t like it when even a suggestion gets made i ought to try something differently….

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    • Karen Armstrong says:

      Katie – I see that you have responded to 3 of the types…maybe our time would be better spent have a call. Please enter your info in the pop up contact me section of the website and we’ll take our conversation offline. Thanks for sharing….
      Karen

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